The Power of Forgiveness

Uncategorized Apr 30, 2020

Do you love yourself? Really love yourself? Like hard and passionately love yourself?

I want you to...with all my heart.

You deserve to feel amazing and have an incredible life.

And if you don't have it right now, the only thing that is stopping you from having that life, is you.

The good news is you can change this by simply deciding to work on yourself.

This is why I am so passionate about my work. I know how possible transforming your life is!

In order to shift your life you need to heal and let go of any old trauma and wounds.

This all starts when you choose to love yourself enough to forgive and let go.

I know, I know, you might be thinking, Callie, that's just fluff and want to brush it off as too simplistic.

Let me assure you, it's not fluff, it's foundational.

Because, forgiveness sets you free.

Unforgiveness keeps us trapped. Because it means we are creating our present moment from from the past, trapping us in our pain and repeating the past.

We dwell on and relive our past mistakes, beating ourselves up for not being perfect, reliving arguments...staying in feelings of shame, doubt, guilt, resentfulness...feeling not good enough and not worthy.

And we are holding ourselves in a prison of our own making.

Now, really think about that. Holding yourself in a prison. I don't know about you but losing my freedom is one of my biggest fears.

Freedom is one of my top values.

So, ask yourself, why do I choose to put myself in a prison everyday by staying in unforgiveness?

Hmmm....

Are you going to choose differently? Good for you!

Start asking yourself daily, where in my life do I need to forgive?

When we are in unforgiveness we are holding on to thoughts and feelings such as anger, resentment and frustration.

We often don't want to let go, because those feelings can allow us to feel temporally strong.

We feel justified, certain, and significant, especially when we went through something that made us feel powerless and insignificant.

Sometimes an experience can be so traumatic that the anger may feel like the only thing keeping us together. That if we let go of it we will fall apart.

But, anger is only meant to be used in short bursts....not long term. In the short term anger can allow us to feel strong, certain, significant and motivate us to take action.

But if we hold on to it, and forget to move through it and on to another emotion, it can trap us, cause disease, weigh us down and create a barrier so love can't get in.

I know it all too well...

I had so much hurt in my past...abuse, betrayal, being cheated on, feeling abandoned...and add on all the times I let myself down.

I kept reliving it over and over again in my head. It felt so real, like it was happening all over again, all the feelings came up...reminding me of how I wasn't good enough, I wasn't loveable, I was unworthy...and that kept me locked in behaviours that blocked my love and happiness.

I self sabotaged. I pushed people away when all I really wanted was to pull them in closer, to have a deep connection with them, to belong, but my feelings of unworthiness prevented me from receiving any of it.

By choosing to not forgive I kept myself...

STUCK, OVERWHELMED, SAD AND BROKE.

So...I decided to stop that. After all I wanted freedom, love, health and wealth.

I spent years choosing to forgive and keep doing so.

Some of it was easy and I could quickly let go.

Some of it was harder...but I kept at it, and I keep at it, because I refuse to keep punishing myself.

Matthew 6:15- Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.

So, if. you want more freedom, love, health and wealth...

It's time to give yourself permission to forgive.

FORGIVENESS IS CHOOSING TO:

Heal
Set yourself free
To love yourself
To be in the present moment
Stand in your power
Own your strength

Forgiveness is love.

What Forgiveness is not...

A sign of weakness
Condoning what the other person did
Allowing that person back into your life

UNFORGIVENEESS IS CHOOSING TO:

Relive past hurt over and over again
Stay wounded
Staying in victimhood
Give your energy to the person who hurt you
Give that person your power
Allow them to have space in your head and heart

So, are you done with the unforgiveness now?

I sincerely hope you said yes, because I want to drive this home...you cannot be present and create a life and business you love when you are spending your energy in past hurt and trauma.

It is time to let go and let God.

It is not your responsibility to make that other person pay.

It is not your responsibility to make yourself pay for past mistakes.

It is your responsibility to heal. To do better. To love. To set yourself free.

Forgiveness Exercise:

Find a quiet space. Relax, quiet your mind, quiet your body. Feel your body relaxing, letting go. Take a nice deep breath in and exhale. Now, put your hand on your heart and take some nice deep breathes into your heart. Focus on breathing into your heart, connecting with your heart, listening to your heart.

Now, picture yourself in a theatre, you are sitting in the audience and the person you want to forgive is on the stage. Now, this might be uncomfortable depending on how traumatic the event was, know that you are safe, you are loved, you are supported and held. (If it helps picture the person as a little boy or little girl around 5 years old)

Now, picture something good happening to them. It can be something as simple as them getting love. Someone is picking them up and hugging them and telling them how loved they are. See it and feel it. We want to feel the love, when we can ask for them to be loved we are setting ourselves free, we are choosing love over hate.

Now, say to yourself or out loud. I choose to forgive you, I release you, I release you, I release you, and so it is.

Now you can see them being embodied in a golden light of love, smiling, thanking you.

Now simply see them disappear. You are free.

Or you can picture them moving further and further away from you, getting smaller and smaller until they are simply a speck of dust that just disappears.

Now, let's go deeper...

You go on stage. Now do the same thing for yourself. Picture amazing things happening for you. Everything that you want is happening for you. See it, feel it, hear it, touch it, smell it, taste it.

Now choose to tell yourself... I love you, I accept you, I forgive you, I release you from any pain. I release, I release, I release.

I choose to claim what I want. I own it. I claim it. It is mine now. It is done.

I hope you enjoyed this exercise! Feel free to send me a message to let me know how it worked for you.

CLICK HERE FOR THE FREE FORGIVENESS MEDITATION ON AUDIO

Sending you all love,

Callie